Sometimes it takes a broken heart to find the tenderness you so desperately need.

This is a vulnerable post for me. To be honest, the last thing I wanted to do today was write because it’s a high-feels day. But, then I thought, maybe that’s the perfect time to write. Maybe by letting my pain be a real, valid thing, someone else will feel seen. As easy as it is to tell myself I’m less worthy, …

Are criticism or sarcasm showing up in love? The balm is kindness.

How kind are you being to yourself? How kind are you being with the people that you love? The answer says an awful lot about your life, your needs, and what isn’t working. Why? Because as soon as kindness takes a hike, it’s time for massive change. Over and over again, this has proven to be true in my own life (and …

What if sexual validation comes from within?

The day I realized 95% of my sexual distress, pain, and shame has been the result of other people telling me what my sexual experiences should look like and feel like, everything shifted. I can’t tell you how many hours (years?) I spent worrying about how my boobs looked or my tummy moved during sex instead of surrendering to the …

What are you prioritizing in love?

Relationships are not complicated. They take practice. They take prioritization. They take choosing to show up in love, even when it’s awkward.

Sex Gets Real 114: Moving beyond sex positivity

JoEllen Notte is a sex educator powerhouse – she is revolutionizing the discussion about sex and depression, and also has a beautiful blog all about sex positivity, sex toys, and introversion. She recently reached out to me and asked if she could come on the show to talk about sex positivity versus sex performativity. Or, as we discuss in this …

Sex Gets Real 108: Horrible oral from a clueless husband

Masturbation May is in full swing, so pop over to our exclusive sale with podcast-approved toys and treat yourself to something deliciously naughty. This week I’m chatting with Victoria Rosa, and we dive into her experiences with tantra and sacred spot massage. Victoria was a part of the Explore More Summit, and she’s absolutely divine when it comes to jealousy …

Sex Gets Real 107: No orgasms from partnered sex

Prescott is back with more amazing advice and t-shirt ideas Comedian and 4-Play Baltimore host, Prescott Gaylord, joins us for a second HIQI. Listener Dannyle wants to know how to talk to the guy she’s dating about the fact that she can’t orgasm from partnered sex. She cums on her own, but when she’s with someone else, it just doesn’t …

Sex Gets Real 105: A virgin and her vibrator

An intimate chat with Dawn Serra. Just because. Dawn woke up and just wanted to have a little chat with you, because you’re amazing. There’s also a follow-up from a listener who wrote in recently about sex with vibrators. Plus, a 20-year-old virgin just got her first vibrator and wants help on working on internal orgasms. A mom also has …

Sex Gets Real 101: Grossed out by BJs

Dylan’s official last episode and we talk blowjobs. If you have any parting messages for Dylan, just use the email down below to send them to Dawn and she’ll pass them along. On this Hit It and Quit It, we heard from a listener about some horrible advice that Anna Faris and Adam Corolla recently gave on Anna’s podcast, Unqualified. …