Reporting an abuser does not ruin their lives & other truths about accountability.
Abuse is never your fault. Here’s why reporting abuse doesn’t ruin lives and what we can all do to increase accountability.
Safety is a prerequisite to pleasure. How safe do you feel?
You cannot punish, criticize, or judge your body into healing. You must feel safe in order to experience pleasure. How safe do you feel?
Sex Gets Real 181: Erotic art and photography with Maggie West
An updated Patreon you say? Why yes. Yes it is. Check out the sweet new rewards. For the past few months, one of my favorite things on Instagram has been Maggie West’s gorgeous nude photo series for Amber Rose’s Slut Walk. The colors, the confidence, the variety of bodies. So, of course, I had to invite her on because her …
Sex Gets Real 180: Fisting, platonic kink, sex labs & more with Bex Caputo
An updated Patreon you say? Why yes. Yes it is. Check out the sweet new rewards (that I can actually deliver). What happens when two sex educators get together and geek out? You get this spanking new episode featuring Bex Caputo from the Dildorks podcast. If ever there was an episode that covered all the things, it’s this one. We …
Sex Gets Real 178: Yes, I have herpes with Dr. Sheila Loanzon
What happens when you get a herpes diagnosis? And more importantly, what happens if you begin hiding that you have herpes? Dr. Sheila Loanzon, an OBGYN who gives amazing PAP smears, is here to talk about her very personal story and new book, “Yes, I Have Herpes.” From advice on how to deal to details about what herpes really is, …
Sex Gets Real 177: Thriving in sex work with Lola Davina
How can you thrive as a sex worker, navigating the fact that you have no real safety while also performing erotic fantasies and sex at the same time? How can you care for yourself as clients bring in their pain, shame, and fear and expect you to heal them? Lola Davina is here to help us answer those questions and …
Sex Gets Real 176: Christopher Zeischegg (Danny Wylde) on writing, monogamy, the future of porn
Guess what? Christopher Zeischegg is here this week. You may know him as porn performer Danny Wylde. I had a chance to read his book, “The Wolves that Live in Skin and Space,” and we talk all about his writing, the horror genre, leaving porn, bi-phobia within the porn world, why he’s grateful to be in a monogamous relationship, how …
Sex Gets Real 174: The Sex Myth with Rachel Hills and Jennie Runk
I wanted to open this week’s episode with a note about racism and white supremacy in light of the Charlottesville crap that’s recently unfolded. I mentioned a bunch of places where you can donate money to help fight racism and support the folks on the ground doing the work. Find them here and here. On to this week’s episode… …
Sex Gets Real 173: Riley J Dennis on trans identity and sex, YouTube culture, & porn
Riley J Dennis is someone I’ve been watching on YouTube for a little while and completely admiring. I adore her passion for anti-oppressive work, talking about feminism, politics, sex, trans issues, and a bunch more. So, I decided to reach out and invite her on the show. When she said yes, I immediately went to work watching as many of …
Sex Gets Real 172: Cooper Beckett on swinging, desire, & the struggle to orgasm
Love the show? Now you can support it! Patreons who support at the $3 level and above get awesome weekly bonus content you can’t find anywhere else. Of course, you can support the show at any level from $1 and up and it means so much to me. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. …