Sex Gets Real 147: Fat sex with “Curvy Girl Sex” author Elle Chase

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Elle Chase is back, which delights me to no end (though, I’m wrong in the episode – Kate McCombs was the first repeat guest!). I adore this chat despite some audio issues, because we get so personal – sharing sex stories and awkward moments and keeping sex so very real, …

Sex Gets Real 146: Female genital mutilation by Mariya Karimjee

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. I made a Patreon for the show! YAY. If you want to support the show, check it out. There’s even a $1 option. Sometimes, you luck into an incredible opportunity. That happened to me when I heard Mariya Karimjee’s story on The Heart or This American Life. It’s about her …

Sex Gets Real 145: Erotic filmmaking and pornography with visionary Erika Lust

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. I made a Patreon for the show! YAY. If you want to support the show, check it out. There’s even a $1 option. This week there are two listener confessions – one at the beginning of the episode and another at the end after the interview. And who am I …

Sex Gets Real 144: Virginity and first time sex with Amber Keyser

Looking for the details on submitting a listener confession? I created a guidelines page for you. As you know, January’s theme this year for confessions is FIRSTS. It felt wonderful to be able to have Amber Keyser, author of The V-Word, join in the fun this week as her book is an anthology of 17 stories all about first time sexual experiences. …

You don’t need to be perfect to be lovable.

You don’t need to be perfect to be lovable. So, please stop striving for perfection. Instead of denying the hurt and the failed expectations, instead of trying to seem like you have it all together, what if you let it all out and showed off the soft, vulnerable parts begging to be recognized? It’s not your fault that awful things happened to …

There is no short cut for talking about the scary stuff. It’s just scary.

There are some things that I really don’t like talking about with my sweetheart. Things I feel deeply ashamed of or embarrassed by. Things that I think could be the final straw in him choosing something other than our marriage, and so I avoid them as long as I possibly can. It’s unhealthy, unhelpful, and creates distance between us But, …

Desire and intimacy require constant tending

Have you ever been in a relationship that started hot and heavy, and then as you settled into your routines as a couple it started to taper off and become something a little more mundane and lukewarm? Yeah. Me, too. That’s because most of us are never taught that desire takes constant, on-going attention in order to thrive. It’s like …