Sex Gets Real 172: Cooper Beckett on swinging, desire, & the struggle to orgasm

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Sex Gets Real 171: Queer and trans healthcare with Zena Sharman

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Sex Gets Real 170: Diary of a Rope Slut with Emily Bingham

I know tons of you are either kink lovers or kink curious, so I have a feeling you’re going to enjoy this chat with rope expert and rope love Emily Bingham. She recently published an erotic memoir all about her kinky, erotic bondage adventures. It is SUPER hot. So in this episode we talk about how she got into rope, …

Sex Gets Real 168: Amarna Miller on ethical porn, feminism, & polyamory

Love the show? Well, Patreons who support at the $3 level and above get exclusive weekly bonus content you can’t find ANYWHERE else. Join in the fun at patreon.com/sgrpodcast As for this week’s episode? Amarna Miller is here and we talk all about ethical porn and why it’s different from feminist porn, why she feels so committed to doing mainstream pornography, …

Sex Gets Real 167: Wendy Strgar on passion in monogamy, lube, & sexual fantasies

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You don’t need to be perfect to be lovable.

You don’t need to be perfect to be lovable. So, please stop striving for perfection. Instead of denying the hurt and the failed expectations, instead of trying to seem like you have it all together, what if you let it all out and showed off the soft, vulnerable parts begging to be recognized? It’s not your fault that awful things happened to …

There is no short cut for talking about the scary stuff. It’s just scary.

There are some things that I really don’t like talking about with my sweetheart. Things I feel deeply ashamed of or embarrassed by. Things that I think could be the final straw in him choosing something other than our marriage, and so I avoid them as long as I possibly can. It’s unhealthy, unhelpful, and creates distance between us But, …

Desire and intimacy require constant tending

Have you ever been in a relationship that started hot and heavy, and then as you settled into your routines as a couple it started to taper off and become something a little more mundane and lukewarm? Yeah. Me, too. That’s because most of us are never taught that desire takes constant, on-going attention in order to thrive. It’s like …

Sometimes it takes a broken heart to find the tenderness you so desperately need.

This is a vulnerable post for me. To be honest, the last thing I wanted to do today was write because it’s a high-feels day. But, then I thought, maybe that’s the perfect time to write. Maybe by letting my pain be a real, valid thing, someone else will feel seen. As easy as it is to tell myself I’m less worthy, …

Are criticism or sarcasm showing up in love? The balm is kindness.

How kind are you being to yourself? How kind are you being with the people that you love? The answer says an awful lot about your life, your needs, and what isn’t working. Why? Because as soon as kindness takes a hike, it’s time for massive change. Over and over again, this has proven to be true in my own life (and …